Call forward for text messages?

Hello, my little brother is getting harassed by his ex psychopath
girlfriend. she calls every few minutes and sends just as many or more text
messages. The girls parents don't do crap so we were going to set the call
forwarding to her parents cell phone and do the same for the text messaging
so they could see just how crazy it is.
The call forward works just fine but I get an error when trying to do the
data.

Any suggestions?

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On Tue, 12 Feb 2008 11:57:50 -0800, "Rob" <[email protected]> wrote in
<[email protected]>:

>Hello, my little brother is getting harassed by his ex psychopath
>girlfriend. she calls every few minutes and sends just as many or more text
>messages. The girls parents don't do crap so we were going to set the call
>forwarding to her parents cell phone and do the same for the text messaging
>so they could see just how crazy it is.
>The call forward works just fine but I get an error when trying to do the
>data.
>
>Any suggestions?

Change the phone number.
Ask the carrier to block that user.
Turn off all messaging.
More abuse isn't the solution to abuse.

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John Navas <http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/AT&T_Wireless_FAQ>

"Rob" <[email protected]> writes:

> Hello, my little brother is getting harassed by his ex psychopath
> girlfriend. she calls every few minutes and sends just as many or more
> text messages. The girls parents don't do crap so we were going to set
> the call forwarding to her parents cell phone and do the same for the
> text messaging so they could see just how crazy it is.
> The call forward works just fine but I get an error when trying to do
> the data.
>
> Any suggestions?

Technical solutions aren't often the most effective fix non-technical
problems.

Forwarding all incoming calls to the parents phone number has all
sorts of negative downsides including the loss of your brother's
ability to use his phone, and being charged minutes for whatever
talking gets done on those forwarded calls.

Forwarding the texts can be done manually. A wholesale forward if
technically possible would send some rather interesting things to
those parents as well, all of which would cost them money if in the
likely event he parents do not have unlimited text messaging.

If concern for the psycho's well being if a factor and getting the
parents engaged, a restraining order would get their attention and
isn't difficult to file for. Or as suggested by John, have the
carrier block inbounds from that psycho's number, or change the number
(which is a pain in the butt, granted).

--
Todd H.
http://toddh.net/

"Todd H." <[email protected]> wrote in message news:[email protected]...
> "Rob" <[email protected]> writes:
>
>> Hello, my little brother is getting harassed by his ex psychopath
>> girlfriend. she calls every few minutes and sends just as many or more
>> text messages. The girls parents don't do crap so we were going to set
>> the call forwarding to her parents cell phone and do the same for the
>> text messaging so they could see just how crazy it is.
>> The call forward works just fine but I get an error when trying to do
>> the data.
>>
>> Any suggestions?
>
> Technical solutions aren't often the most effective fix non-technical
> problems.
>
> Forwarding all incoming calls to the parents phone number has all
> sorts of negative downsides including the loss of your brother's
> ability to use his phone, and being charged minutes for whatever
> talking gets done on those forwarded calls.
>
> Forwarding the texts can be done manually. A wholesale forward if
> technically possible would send some rather interesting things to
> those parents as well, all of which would cost them money if in the
> likely event he parents do not have unlimited text messaging.
>
> If concern for the psycho's well being if a factor and getting the
> parents engaged, a restraining order would get their attention and
> isn't difficult to file for. Or as suggested by John, have the
> carrier block inbounds from that psycho's number, or change the number
> (which is a pain in the butt, granted).
>
> --
> Todd H.
> http://toddh.net/


I had almost the same thing happen. Called Cingular at the time, They told
me they can't block any numbers. There only reply was change your number.

Rob wrote:
> Hello, my little brother is getting harassed by his ex psychopath
> girlfriend. she calls every few minutes and sends just as many or more
> text messages. The girls parents don't do crap so we were going to set
> the call forwarding to her parents cell phone and do the same for the
> text messaging so they could see just how crazy it is.
> The call forward works just fine but I get an error when trying to do
> the data.
>
> Any suggestions?


Firstly, don't change your number. It's yours, it should stay yours,
and changing it is an act of capitulation that offers an undeserved
victory to the abuser. Screw 'em to the wall. Make them sorry they
ever met you.

Secondly, making the abuser's life as miserable as possible is always a
good answer. Forget whether the parents want to be involved or not -
it's not their choice - it's yours, and shoving the calls and messages
up the parents ass will eventually accomplish the goal sooner or later.
Involving a third party like the cellular carrier only creates
witnesses - you don't need any and they'll just give you more grief.

Revenge is always best served fresh and cold.

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jer
email reply - I am not a 'ten'

Rob wrote:
> The girls parents don't do crap

How much will it cost for a civil court cease and desist order?

Jer <[email protected]> writes:

> Rob wrote:
> > Hello, my little brother is getting harassed by his ex psychopath
> > girlfriend. she calls every few minutes and sends just as many or
> > more text messages. The girls parents don't do crap so we were going
> > to set the call forwarding to her parents cell phone and do the same
> > for the text messaging so they could see just how crazy it is.
> > The call forward works just fine but I get an error when trying to
> > do the data.
> > Any suggestions?
>
>
> Firstly, don't change your number. It's yours, it should stay yours,
> and changing it is an act of capitulation that offers an undeserved
> victory to the abuser. Screw 'em to the wall. Make them sorry they
> ever met you.

Heh. Yeah, I'm sure that'll work out well. :-)

> Secondly, making the abuser's life as miserable as possible is always
> a good answer. Forget whether the parents want to be involved or not
> it's not their choice - it's yours, and shoving the calls and messages
> up the parents ass will eventually accomplish the goal sooner or
> later.

Maybe. Or get him served with a restraining order.

> Involving a third party like the cellular carrier only creates
> witnesses - you don't need any and they'll just give you more grief.
>
> Revenge is always best served fresh and cold.

Particularly when dealing with mentally unwell people, or addicts,
this almost never works out the way sane folks think it will. Mostly
because it makes the exceedingly poor assumption that the the neurotic
folks think logically about things.


--
Todd H.
http://toddh.net/

Todd H. wrote:
> Jer <[email protected]> writes:
>
>> Rob wrote:
>>> Hello, my little brother is getting harassed by his ex psychopath
>>> girlfriend. she calls every few minutes and sends just as many or
>>> more text messages. The girls parents don't do crap so we were going
>>> to set the call forwarding to her parents cell phone and do the same
>>> for the text messaging so they could see just how crazy it is.
>>> The call forward works just fine but I get an error when trying to
>>> do the data.
>>> Any suggestions?
>>
>> Firstly, don't change your number. It's yours, it should stay yours,
>> and changing it is an act of capitulation that offers an undeserved
>> victory to the abuser. Screw 'em to the wall. Make them sorry they
>> ever met you.
>
> Heh. Yeah, I'm sure that'll work out well. :-)

There are a half dozen people running around these parts that feel that
way about me for all the right reasons. They screwed me, I screwed
back. "The good, the bad, the ugly" will be deservedly engraved on my
headstone.


>
>> Secondly, making the abuser's life as miserable as possible is always
>> a good answer. Forget whether the parents want to be involved or not
>> it's not their choice - it's yours, and shoving the calls and messages
>> up the parents ass will eventually accomplish the goal sooner or
>> later.
>
> Maybe. Or get him served with a restraining order.

I've never cared much for restraint orders against me. In fact, they
serve to accomplish a goal I fervently wanted - total separation from
someone I want absolutely nothing to do with. Good riddance to bad rubbish.


>
>> Involving a third party like the cellular carrier only creates
>> witnesses - you don't need any and they'll just give you more grief.
>>
>> Revenge is always best served fresh and cold.
>
> Particularly when dealing with mentally unwell people, or addicts,
> this almost never works out the way sane folks think it will. Mostly
> because it makes the exceedingly poor assumption that the the neurotic
> folks think logically about things.

No doubt, some idiots have surprised me, but that doesn't mean they
can't be dealt with - it just takes a tad more effort with Plan B.

When I've decided someone is trying to screw me, I immediately create a
separation and instantly burn all bridges - literally if I have to. If
their 'tude gets a tad warm because of that, it's their problem. And
remains their problem. They may have started it, but I'll damn sure
finish it, and I'll use methods they can't possibly imagine.


--
jer
email reply - I am not a 'ten'

>> The girls parents don't do crap
>
> How much will it cost for a civil court cease and desist order?

Usually nothing or little more than filing fees. Have your bill handy where
it shows the excessive abuse. Have the messages printed out. Take them
with you to the courthouse and request a restraining order. It won't really
accomplish much other than to put the evidence on the record. That's key to
taking further steps. You want the weight of proper procedure on your side
before moving on to additional civil procedings.