if you were to choose...

situation: you meet a guy that really complete your life but your family and your only bestfriend does not like him,then they are forcing you to choose between that guy and them.
whom do you choose? and why?

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My philosophy: friends and family shouldn't force you to choose. Happiness is an individual thing and I would think your friends and family would want you to be happy. If this person makes you happy, they should accept that.

I agree with the above post....no one is living your life but u and if sum1 makes u that happy then so be it...live and be happy for yourself and not for anyone else...family and friends even if they don't like sumthing should atleast want you to be happy no matter what.

Originally Posted by jemy

situation: you meet a guy that really complete your life but your family and your only bestfriend does not like him,then they are forcing you to choose between that guy and them.
whom do you choose? and why?

I think it really depends on the full story.

Is this person a good person or a bad boy type? Is the person into drugs and drinking and not responsible? Does the guy have a several babies here and there that he's not supporting? Are you the "other" woman, that he left someone else for? Are there things they see and know about that you are ignoring, because you think with you, things will be different?

Now them not liking the person just because he breaths, that's a different story, and if they have no real reasons for not liking him, I personally would ignore their complaints until they gave me their reasons. And if they decided that they didn't want to be in my life, I suppose I'd have to tell them, my door is always open to them, and leave it at that.

The people I know, would only make me choose between them and someone I liked, if they saw that the person was into things that would be harmful to myself, them or their children. And I feel it would be fair if they were to tell me, that I am welcome, but the person I was interested in, was not, due to their reasoning. (example drugs being dealt, or any criminal involvements)

Do what you want to do, its your life. You gota live and learn...

Originally Posted by BlkBear

I think it really depends on the full story.

Is this person a good person or a bad boy type? Is the person into drugs and drinking and not responsible? Does the guy have a several babies here and there that he's not supporting? Are you the "other" woman, that he left someone else for? Are there things they see and know about that you are ignoring, because you think with you, things will be different?

Now them not liking the person just because he breaths, that's a different story, and if they have no real reasons for not liking him, I personally would ignore their complaints until they gave me their reasons. And if they decided that they didn't want to be in my life, I suppose I'd have to tell them, my door is always open to them, and leave it at that.

The people I know, would only make me choose between them and someone I liked, if they saw that the person was into things that would be harmful to myself, them or their children. And I feel it would be fair if they were to tell me, that I am welcome, but the person I was interested in, was not, due to their reasoning. (example drugs being dealt, or any criminal involvements)

Quoted for effect. Supremely excellent post, and excellent advice.

You need to understand why your best friend and family don't like him. Once you understanding why they don't like him, then you need to decide if their reasons are correct and then relevant to your relationship and your future with him. If they are right, and you agree with them that you shouldn't see him, perhaps you should break up. If they are wrong, or if they are right but their reasons aren't important, then stay together if that's what you want.

It might be that your best friend and family just don't want you to spend your life with him, but remember that they *can* be wrong. Determine if they are right. Listen to their advice, but don't follow it unless you agree that they're right.

If, after listening to them, you aren't sure if they're right or not, then talk to the boyfriend about their concerns. Let him help you decide if they're right or not. He might be surprisingly honest, or lie...and that will give you more information, too.

So make up your own mind, but be a detective first, and find out if the allegations are true before listening to other people's opinions, okay?

Originally Posted by jemy

situation: you meet a guy that really complete your life but your family and your only bestfriend does not like him,then they are forcing you to choose between that guy and them.
whom do you choose? and why?

i will choose the guy. at the end of the day, it is about my life.....my parents or my best friend is not going to live my partner but, i am...

of course, before that decision, i will try to find out why they do not like the guy..that is important as well. if i find out that their dislike is valid, then, i may have to evaluate the relationship ....eg, if the guy is really a jerk(if i were to get evidence of that)